When To Call It Quits

I hope this blog that I am sharing does not apply to any of you, but sadly I know that it will hit home for a few. We are taught that marriage to so extremely important and that we should do everything in our power to makes things work, especially when it gets tough. Divorce is something that is so heartbreaking for everyone involved and it should never be taken lightly. But how we do know if we really should just call it quits or simply get help and work through it?
President James E. Faust talks about this issue and gives a really great quote on what he thinks about divorce.
"Over a lifetime of dealing with human problems, I have struggled to understand what might be considered "just cause" for breaking of covenants. I confess I do not claim the wisdom nor authority to definitely state what is "just cause". Only the parties to the marriage can determined this. They must bear the responsibility for the train of consequences which inevitably follow if these covenants are not honored. In my opinion, "just cause" should be nothing less serious than a prolonged and apparently irredeemable relationship which is destructive of a person's dignity as a human being."
He goes on to say that a just cause is not simply because of mental distress, personality differences, or growing apart, or falling out of love. When it comes to having a "just cause" to a divorce, really the only people that will know will be the people in the marriage. Each marriage situation is so unique and has so much behind it, that there is honestly no way to have a sweeping answer across the board.

Divorce should be considered in the problems in the marriage are prolonged. This is after the couple has seemed help, and has tried their best to fix the issues to no avail. If both are sincerely trying, but yet the problems do not seem to vanish, then separation could be a possibility. As long as you can say I have tried everything in my power to make this work, then you should not feel guilty.
Another reason why divorce could be on the table, is the destruction of human dignity. If someone in the marriage, or both, are being demeaned and lose their sense of worthy, they divorce should be consider. If a spouse is demeaning to the other and does not think that they are in the wrong, then that person should not be with them. I have an aunt who are in an emotionally abuse relationship for 30 years until she recently decided to get out. I look up to her for her courage, but also wish she was able to find that courage so much sooner so she could've found happiness in a marriage sooner. Again, if you or both parties can say that they have tried 100% to fix the marriage and have prayed to the Lord for strength and guidance, then you cannot feel guilty if the marriage ends.